Superior Court Judge Altus Hudson: Lessons In Co-Parenting

Superior Court Judge Altus Hudson speaks on his experience co-parenting at a young age. Though co-parenting has become a buzzword in the past decade, parents have been sharing the duties of raising a child while living apart for a long time. Los Angeles County Superior Court Judge Altus Hudson co-parented his two children, who were born when he was aged nineteen and twenty-one.

Now, as he prepares to turn 54, he reflects on his youth and offers evergreen advice on how fathers can successfully co-parent.

“The first thing I'd say is that you gotta spend time with the kids, especially if you're living apart from them. I was very consistent with the schedule that we established. You want them to understand your ways. If they’re ever in an unfamiliar situation, I told them that you got to think about what I would do.” Hudson went on to explain that if he was not involved in their lives then they wouldn’t be able to answer the question in that moment. “And time really flies so you got to spend time with the kids,” Hudson says.

The root of this advice comes from how he went about things as a young parent - having to mature and choose how to raise his kids. Hudson shared, “I was, you know, nineteen, a very young parent. To every situation that was unfamiliar to me as I was raising my kids, if I did not know what the right answer was, I said, 'Well, what would my dad do under these circumstances?'”

Hudson also attributes raising his kids to help from family. “You know, they always say it takes a village to raise a child, and that is literally what happened in my case. My girlfriend never [had to] wanted for a babysitter. [My sisters] loved her to be around, and they were more than willing to babysit and help us out.”

Hudson also advises fathers to cultivate a friendship with their co-parenting partners. “You gotta have open communication with your kids' mom, and if you're not in a relationship with her, you [cannot concern yourself with whom] she's dating and who she's around. You can't be involved in that situation, because you want to make sure that you can remain friends so you can parent the kids together.”

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